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Hello darkness, my old friend…

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fix_me (Photo credit: ~!)

…Hello darkness, my old friend,
I’ve come to talk with you again,
Because a vision softly creeping,
Left its seeds while I was sleeping,
And the vision that was planted in my brain
Still remains
Within the sound of silence.

In restless dreams I walked alone
Narrow streets of cobblestone,
neath the halo of a street lamp,
I turned my collar to the cold and damp
When my eyes were stabbed by the flash of
A neon light
That split the night
And touched the sound of silence.

And in the naked light I saw
Ten thousand people, maybe more.
People talking without speaking,
People hearing without listening,
People writing songs that voices never share
And no one dared
Disturb the sound of silence.

Fools said i,you do not know
Silence like a cancer grows.
Hear my words that I might teach you,
Take my arms that I might reach you.
But my words like silent raindrops fell,
And echoed
In the wells of silence

And the people bowed and prayed
To the neon God they made.
And the sign flashed out its warning,
In the words that it was forming.
And the signs said, the words of the prophets
Are written on the subway walls
And tenement halls.
And whispered in the sounds of silence.

Why I think of this song everytime I mentally prepare for this post, I have no idea.  But, I have a plan – not sure if its going to work, but a plan we all must have.  You see, I have been on Paxil since April last year.  At first, a full tablet, then onto half a tablet every day – at one point I was skipping every other day, but then got too nervous so went back onto half a tablet every day.  Now, I think it is time to come off Paxil and say goodbye.  For good.

But, first, I must have a plan.  I have just recently read and completed Angela de Souza’s book Emotional Gravity, which I found to be a great read.  In a nutshell, she gives some very specific advice on how to control your emotions by controlling what you think about.  Of course it is important to understand the why and to forgive, but when all is said and done, you then need to train your mind, your thoughts and emotions to then move past that point.  In the book, she gives specific exercises that enable you to do this.  (To be honest, I think I passed that point a long time ago, but I just can’t seem to let go – hoping this will help me to do that.)  And this is what I am going to be sharing with you over the next couple of weeks.  Once I have done that, then I need to start the in depth process of training my mind (which I been working on greatly already).  And then – it is going off Paxil.  Hopefully for good and forever, but at least for now.  I think it is time, but I want a plan that I can work with, because I am so scared to go off – I have this annoying little voice in my head telling me that all my progress over the last couple of months have been for nothing, and that the minute I go off Paxil, it’ll be anxiety heaven and that my poor hubby and daughter will be bearing the brunt of it.  And my doctors have told me to wean myself off slowly, and I quote “very, very slowly”.

So, my idea is to work on the above, and then for the month of August, I’ll skip every Monday.  In September, I’ll skip every Monday and Friday.  In October, it’ll be every Monday, Wednesday and Friday.  In November, it’ll add a Sunday as well.  In December, it’ll be off Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays.  In January, we’ll stop all together.  A new year, a new way of thinking and a new way of doing things.

I am so nervous to do this, but I really do feel that it is time.  And if it doesn’t work, I am quite happy to make peace with the idea of always needing to be on something.  We’ve just got to take this one step at a time.  And I need to make peace with losing weight – because that is a sure fire trigger to anxiety heaven… (hell???)

So, bear with me over the next couple of days – lets see where this takes us.

2 Timothy 1:7

King James Version (KJV)

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Philippians 4:8

New International Version (NIV)

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Ebb and flow

English: Negative low tide at Ocean Beach in S...

English: Negative low tide at Ocean Beach in San Francisco (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Ebb and flow

To decrease and then increase, as with tides; a decrease followed by an increase, as with tides.  The fortunes of the major political parties tend to ebb and flow over time.  The ebb and flow of democracy through history is a fascinating subject.  (Ref: http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/ebb+and+flow)

I have been giving my Pendulum Theory post a lot of thought and I want to change something – sometimes things in live are due to the normal ebb and flow, the movement that is around our universe all the time.  The difference is that is that we have to consciously sow seeds for the pendulum to swing, whereas the ebb and flow it the normal course of life over which we have very little control.

To illustrate, Mr Joe Soap is an alcoholic and he can sow seeds of health and healing into his life to have victory over his addition – i.e. the pendulum will swing.

However, today Mr Joe Soap is full of energy and activity, tomorrow he is tired and needs a bit of down time and quiet.  The ebb and flow.  And this is true all in nature and in life – one minute we’re having drought, the next we’re flooding.  Then the wind is blowing, and then there is calm.

The fact is that there is an ebb and flow to life.  There are highs and lows.  There is bitter and sweet.  There are gray days and sunny days and it’s all part of the package.  If it were peaches, sunshine and roses all the time we’d probably get bored pretty quickly.

The second level is that we resist the mood and immediately try to “fix” it or escape it.   In some instances this takes the form of eating, drinking, doping, buying, consuming or indulging our way out of the problem.  In other instances, we run, we hide, we deny or we slam on the brakes and shut down completely.

The bottom line is that the idea that we’re supposed to be on a high all the time is misleading and it can cause us to have false expectations.  It’s no wonder that we live in a world mired in addictive behaviors aimed at escaping the lows that we all inevitably experience.

What I’ve been learning is that the best way to cause a shift in our mood when the darkness hits is to completely surrender to the experience of it.  This means facing the feelings, writing about them, talking about them with someone we trust and sometimes, even laughing about them.

The more we resist the valleys of life, the more entrenched in them we become.  But when we honor our darker feelings and accept them as part of the nature of who we are, then they lose their hold on us.  When we acknowledge our feelings, give them voice and allow ourselves to feel the ugly, scary stuff, then the darkness passes and gives way to light.

Most importantly, when we’re having one of those days, it’s an opportunity to practice loving ourselves more, to dig deeper and have greater faith in our dreams, to build up our spiritual endurance and press on in the face of fear and uncertainty.  It’s an opportunity to learn about ourselves and grow by getting to know a side of ourselves that makes us uncomfortable.

There is an ebb and flow to life.   Rather than fight it or resist it, let us embrace it.  Let us adjust our expectations of what is “normal” and practice accepting the highs, the lows and everything in between.

There’s a lesson in all of it and it’s by fully being wherever we are that we can maintain a sense of inner peace and remain empowered regardless of what the day holds or what the weather outside looks like.

(Ref: http://thedailylove.com/the-ebb-flow-of-life/)

These two theories are so closely linked but I think it is important not to confuse the two.